When I was growing up both of my parents worked. My dad was a professor at the local college and the treasurer of at a theatre box office during the summer. My mom was a librarian at a local elementary school. My mom was a spender! Every Saturday was spent shopping with my mom, that’s what she did. I never remember my parents talking about money, or having fights about money. I saw them both work hard and buy nice things without stress.
My husband’s family was not as financially stable as mine. His mom didn’t work and his dad went from job to job just trying to make enough money to support his family. His mom wasn’t very responsible with money, so if she had it she spent it.
So when we got married, it seemed like we were coming from opposite backgrounds, but we discovered a couple of big similarities that neither of us wanted to continue in our marriage. Both of our mother’s were spenders, and because of that both of our dad’s had to spend a lot of their time working. For our family, we didn’t want my husband to have to work more then he had to, so we could spend more time together as a family. We decided early that we would live on a budget. It took us years to really figure out how to have a budget that you could live on, but we have done it. We both have a strong testimony of tithing. If we pay tithing money doesn’t magically appear, instead we see the blessing that we will be able to create budget’s and live within our budget.
We both have realized that just like many things in life, the financial part of our life is an ongoing journey. It needs constant work and attention and needs to be adjusted from time to time.